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A Supportive Retreat for Fire Service Couples

Reconnect and strengthen your partnership at the Fire Family Couples Retreat, a two-day experience designed specifically for firefighter couples.

Step away from the demands of fire life and focus on building resilience, deepening connection, and creating lasting memories together.

Through guided workshops, experiential activities and opportunities for connection, couples will deepen emotional intimacy, build resilience, and return home with practical strategies for a strong, healthy partnership.

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Couples Retreat Topics and Guided Conversations

During the couples retreat, you’ll work through topics focused on the challenges fire service couples typically face.

All of them are guided by licensed clinicians and professionals with real-life experience working with fire families.

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Understanding the Impact of Trauma on Relationships

Learn how trauma and stress can affect communication, trust, and emotional connection.
Impact

Healthy Communication Under Stress

Build stronger communication habits during conflict, stress, and busy fire service schedules.
Communication

Rituals of Connection

Explore simple ways to stay connected day to day, plus ways to capture quality time and shared moments.
Connection

Rebuilding Emotional Intimacy After Crisis or Distance

Strengthen emotional closeness after difficult experiences, separation, or stressful seasons.
Intimacy
Resilience

Navigating Shift Work and Emotional Cycles

Better understand how firefighter schedules can impact emotions, routines, and relationships.
Emotion
Communication

Parenting Through Trauma and Resilience

Discuss ways to support your children and create stability during stressful times.
Resilience

Mental Health First Aid for Families

Recognize emotional warning signs and learn supportive ways to respond as a family.
Mental Health

Self-Care as a Couple

Learn healthy ways to manage stress and support each other’s wellbeing when times get hard.
Self-Care
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Grief, Loss, and Long-Term Healing

Create space to process loss, grief, and healing through ongoing support and connection.
Grief

Building a Shared Purpose

Strengthen your relationship through shared goals, values, and long-term family priorities.
Purpose
Peers

Tools and Techniques for Successful Transition Home 

Learn practical ways to reconnect and adjust after shifts, deployments, or time apart.
Tools

Couples Retreat Activities That Encourage Connection

Alongside workshops and guided discussions, the retreat includes activities that give you time to relax, talk and simply enjoy being together, including the evening highlight of a bagpiper at sunset on the Half Moon Bay bluffs.

  • Coastal walks 
  • Biking 
  • Pickleball 
  • Spa and wellness 
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Meet the Couples Retreat Speakers and Workshop Leaders 

All sessions are led by licensed clinicians and professionals with real-life experience working with fire families.

Workshops encourage open discussion, reflection, and practical communication skills couples can use at home.

Rich & Yvonne Dutra-St.John

Rich & Yvonne Dutra-St.John

Co-founders of Challenge Day. Featured on MTV and The Oprah Winfrey Show. Nearly four decades of relationship and family work.
Rich & Yvonne Dutra-St.John

Rich & Yvonne Dutra-St.John

Co-founders of Challenge Day. Featured on MTV and The Oprah Winfrey Show. Nearly four decades of relationship and family work.

Co-founders of Challenge Day, an internationally recognized program dedicated to building connection, compassion, and emotional wellness in communities and families.

For nearly four decades, they’ve helped strengthen relationships around the world.

Rich is a former educator and therapist with a master’s in clinical psychology, and Yvonne is a longtime educator who has created more than 20 nationally recognized programs focused on emotional intelligence and family strengthening.

Featured on MTV and The Oprah Winfrey Show, they’re known for their warm, authentic style that inspires courage, vulnerability, and deeper connection.

They continue to bring a heart-centered approach to couples seeking growth, healing, and meaningful change.

Rachelle Zemlok, PsyD

Rachelle Zemlok, PsyD

Licensed clinical psychologist, firefighter spouse, author of The Firefighter Family Academy.
Rachelle Zemlok, PsyD

Rachelle Zemlok, PsyD

Licensed clinical psychologist, firefighter spouse, author of The Firefighter Family Academy.

A licensed clinical psychologist specializing in the mental health and relationship needs of first responders and their families.

As the spouse of a firefighter, she blends clinical expertise with personal insight, offering support that is both professional and deeply relatable.

She is the author of The Firefighter Family Academy, a practical guide helping fire families navigate emotional challenges with confidence and resilience.

Dr. Zemlok is also a national consultant and respected advocate, known for equipping families with tools for communication, wellbeing, and long-term connection.

Matt Mesker

Matt Mesker

Chief Petty Officer, U.S. Navy SEAL. 20 years of service, Bronze Star with Combat V.
Matt Mesker

Matt Mesker

Chief Petty Officer, U.S. Navy SEAL. 20 years of service, Bronze Star with Combat V.

Chief Petty Officer Matthew E. Mesker is a U.S. Navy SEAL with 20 years of distinguished service, including five deployments to Afghanistan, Africa, Europe, and Iraq.

A qualified sniper and Master Training Specialist, he has held leadership roles at SEAL Teams Two and Three and currently serves as Senior Enlisted Advisor for SEAL Officer Assessment and Selection.

His decorations include the Bronze Star with Combat V for Valor, multiple Navy and Marine Corps Achievement Medals, and numerous unit awards.

Chief Mesker brings unparalleled operational experience and leadership expertise to every audience he engages.

Paul LeBaron

Paul LeBaron

Chief of Police (Retired), 32-year law enforcement veteran. Expert on wellness, family dynamics and leadership under pressure.
Paul LeBaron

Paul LeBaron

Chief of Police (Retired), 32-year law enforcement veteran. Expert on wellness, family dynamics and leadership under pressure.

Paul LeBaron is a 32-year law enforcement veteran who served more than 27 years with the Long Beach Police Department and later as Chief of Police for the Hermosa Beach Police Department until his retirement in April 2025.

As Chief, he prioritized employee wellness and organizational culture.

Paul holds degrees from California State University, Long Beach, and American Military University, along with a graduate certificate from the University of Virginia.

He is a graduate of the FBI National Academy and other executive leadership programs.

Paul married his wife in 1992 and has three children, two daughters-in-law, and two granddaughters.

He teaches criminal justice at CSU Long Beach, speaks fluent Spanish, and enjoys soccer and scuba diving.

Aaron Davis

Aaron Davis

Former NFL player and motivational speaker. Expert on discipline, mental toughness and resilience under pressure.
Aaron Davis

Aaron Davis

Former NFL player and motivational speaker. Expert on discipline, mental toughness and resilience under pressure.

A motivational speaker and former NFL player known for his high-energy, practical, and inspiring approach to personal and professional growth.

Drawing on his experience competing at the highest level, he teaches audiences how to build discipline, mental toughness, and a champion’s mindset.

With decades of experience speaking to corporations, schools, first responder groups, and athletic teams, Aaron blends powerful storytelling with actionable strategies that motivate people to lead with purpose and resilience.

His engaging style, authenticity, and real-world perspective make him a sought-after voice for those looking to elevate performance, strengthen relationships, and overcome adversity.

Is a Couples Retreat Right for You?

This retreat may be a great fit if you want to strengthen communication, enjoy uninterrupted time with your partner, or simply invest in your relationship away from daily routines.

You don’t need to be struggling to benefit; many couples attend to strengthen an already solid partnership.

Limited spots are available; registration is on a first-come, first-served basis.

Payment of $750 is due at the time of registration and is non-refundable.

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Benefits, Assistance, and Support for Families of Fallen Firefighters   

When firefighters, spouses, partners, children, and loved ones experience hardship connected to injuries, medical emergencies, natural disasters, or other difficult circumstances, the Fire Family Foundation is there.  
Ways to Give
Online Banking: Firefighters First members can donate directly through online banking

Mail a Check: Fire Family Foundation, 1520 West Colorado Blvd, Pasadena, CA 91105
The Foundation also honors the memory of fallen firefighters and the brave families who carry their legacy forward.
We provide emergency relief and financial assistance to help you regain stability and move forward with support from a community that understands.
Firefighters First covers all overhead expenses, so 100% of every donation goes directly to fire families.

Frequently Asked Questions About Our Retreat for Firefighter Couples 

Who is this couples retreat for? 

This couples retreat is designed for fire couples: firefighters and their spouses or partners and is an event to attend together. The experience is built around shared learning, reflection, and connection.

Can I attend alone? 

No. The experience is designed for couples to participate together from start to finish.

My partner is hesitant. How can I encourage them to attend?

It’s common for one partner to feel unsure at first. This retreat is not about blame or ‘fixing’ anyone but about strengthening your relationship, building tools together, and creating space to reconnect away from daily stress.

Is this retreat therapy?

This retreat is educational and experiential, not therapy. While it may feel deeply meaningful, it is designed to provide tools, insights and connection, not clinical treatment.

What kinds of couple retreat activities are included?

The agenda includes workshops, guided discussions, couple-focused activities, wellness experiences, time with other couples attending the retreat, and free time to relax and reconnect together.

What can we expect from the retreat? 

You can expect a comfortable environment centered around honest conversations and time together.

How do we get to the retreat location?

You should take care of transportation arrangements to and from the retreat yourselves. Travel expenses are not included in the registration fee.

When is payment due? 

To reserve your spot, pay the $750 registration fee at the time of registration.

Is the registration fee refundable? 

No. Because space is limited and retreat planning happens in advance, registration fees are non-refundable and non-transferable.

We registered but cannot attend. Can we still get our money back? 

We know plans can sometimes change unexpectedly. However, due to limited availability and planning commitments, registration payments cannot be refunded or transferred.

Who can we contact with additional questions?

If you would like help deciding whether the retreat is the right fit for you, our team is available to answer questions. Please contact us at info@firefamilyfoundation.org.